What if we are all ok?

I’ve always assumed it was really egotistical to want to know why people liked you.   Like it was just away of seeking reinforcement for you ego.  And certainly it can be that.  But I’ve also realized lately that, for those of use who have yet to completely subvert our egos and detach from the need for peer approval, it can be really helpful.  Because I am starting to see that a lot of the time, the things we make up in our heads about why people like us end up being the things we become attached to in ourselves, the things we cling to and foster that get overblown and overbearing, and, ultimately, become the things that stand in the way of our allowing our spiritual natures to manifest themselves.  For, if we were to ask those who love why it is so, I strongly suspect that the things they would identify are not those things we’ve imagined, but those expressions of our noble spirits that have managed to shine through the nonsense that we’ve accumulated through our interactions with society and our ruminations on our own Selves.  I bet it’s not the confidence we exude because we know where we stand, but the sense of acceptance we create when we acknowledge our oneness.  Not the “cool” that comes across when we make the witty comment or the snide remark, but the truth we speak when we perceive God’s reality.   It’s not the admiration of others that draws them to us, but the love they feel when we let them into our hearts.  And if they could tell us that, or if we could just know it, we wouldn’t fear the vulnerability of exposing our shortcomings or the insecurity of not knowing everything.  We would be comfortable in the knowledge that what attracts souls to each other is their fundamental unity – that what we recognize and desire in each other are those qualities that God has bestowed on every one of us, that are essential to our natures as human beings, and that no number of failed jokes or awkward silences or even failures to live up to our own very high standards can obscure.  I think maybe our connection is in our striving, in our sharing this life and all of its challenges and in knowing that there is a mutual recognition  that we are trying and that we mostly don’t know what we’re doing most of the time and that we’re ok with that.

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