24 April 2009

long time

Yeah, it’s been a long time. One would hope such a long sabbatical would end in some revolutionary insight, but no.  i just felt bad for taking up cyber space without using it.  Go figure.  Unfortunately (or fortunately in the big run) i doubt that i’ll be writing much for a while.  It’s not like before when i didn’t have any thoughts.  i just don’t really feel a particular need to express myself.  i’m having my conversations and that’s feeling pretty sufficient.  i’m doing a lot of the learning things and not so much of the talking thing.  i think it’s good. It’s possible that i may replace my thoughts about the world with fiction in this space.  i’ve never had much success writing fiction, but i think it would be a worthwhile exercise, so i’m going to try if i can get a chance. 

Which brings me to the news in my life.  Most everyone knows this already, but i thought it only resonable to state in my online record of self that i’m staying here in Haifa for 2.5 years longer than originally expected.  So that’ll be until December 2011.  It feels the same.  Just less uncertain.  And now that i’m a little more permanent here, i have a little more work and i’m happy to spend my time doing that.  All in all life is exactly what i would hope for itto be right now.  Though it would be nice if a husband loomed on the horizon.  For now i’ll go get a hamburger.  Laters.

3 February 2009

The City of Love and Rapture

When once the seeker hath ascended unto this station, he will enter the City of Love and Rapture, whereupon the winds of love will blow and the breezes of rapture will waft.

It would seem that in my tumble through the darkness of delusion, i have finally managed to find God’s love – for me, for Him.  And now i am agonizingly aware of my insurmountable unworthiness of my Beloved.  i am in a panic trying to learn as immediately as my egregiously limited faculties will allow how to love Him right – to do at least the best i actually can- and at every moment i fail, my heart stops and i tremble in fear that it will be too late, that i won’t pick up both feet in time and He will surrender me back to myself.

Now he laugheth, now he weepeth sore; now he reposeth in peace, now he trembleth in fear.

My heart breaks  every  day.
I cannot find a place to hide it.
The pieces…every side always so exposed and raw.
Every new sensation so dangerously potentially errant.

Can i trust my Lover to keep me?  When i so grievously fail to keep Him every day?

How do they do this?  How do the good people do this?  For a lifetime?  For eternity? How?

1 January 2009

Bruised but not quite broken

I just got my ass kicked by idol fancy and vain imagination in the strangest reaction to a mediocre work of fiction i have ever experienced or witnessed. That’s what i get for putting moderation out on its haunches. Over the last few days i listened to a four-book series in its entirety – 2 days, 17 hours, 14 minutes, and 33 seconds worth of fiction in a 96 hour period. Probably because this particular series plays so directly to my most relied upon and, as it turns out, most cherished alternate universe fantasies – fantasies i have harbored for almost half my life - i let myself get bizarrely entangled in the characters’ relationship and so attached to the family in the story that when it ended i actually felt like someone had died, fighting back tears all day yesterday as though i was being separated from people that i loved and wanted to spend so much more time with and, freakier – like i was ending a relationship with someone who took up my whole heart.

The whole experience was, at least, tempered by the constant reminder of my logic that none of these things i was so pained to part with had actually existed in my life to begin with and the accompanying embarrassment at the violent emotional reaction i was having to losing something someone else imagined. What i realized fairly quickly, though, is that what was really there for me was the pain of letting go of fantasies and imaginings for my own life that could transform in my heart to hopes and wishes when i at the end of my patience with this world, of surrendering things i have so strongly desired, of tearing from my heart my fantastic imaginary future, and more than anything of cutting and sealing off my escape routes.

If i were to describe with any amount of detail what sorts of things i tore from my heart while i sat sobbing for the last 45 minutes, it would be a lot easier, i think , for you to imagine what i mean. But then i would be mortified instead of just really embarrassed and you would all know that not-so-deep inside i’m really still 15 years old. No kidding. But as it stands, you have no proof. Be assured these are not the sort of healthy dreams for the future – graduate school, publication, family life – that we all need to keep moving forward. These are those things that, while innocent enough, cloud one’s ability to accurately assess reality, always holding it to standard that does not and needs not exist.

As i write this i can feel myself craving those fantasies again and i very much feel like an addict who just entered rehab. i, my friends, am a fiction junkie. It even took an overdose to get me here. I have acknowledged now that i can’t go on living my life as though this other life i’ve imagined is a practicable plan B.  Or that any alternate life i imagine is a practicable plan B.  There’s just this and i have to be ok with that. 

So we’re going to see how i cope with a week quit cold turkey. No fiction, no movies, no daydreams, no stories. One week solidly in reality. I am actually, genuinely very nervous. Not quite wracked with anxiety, but seriously on edge. Maybe if, in this vulnerable state, i start to read holy, healthy things my dependency will shift. Maybe i will start to see more fully my reality, not distracted by imaginary options and impossible wishes.  Then i can – slowly and with great moderation – reintroduce certain types of fiction to my life, though i’m not sure i’ll ever be able to safely revisit the books that were my downfall. I’m about to cry again thinking i might not. And i’m having to fight so hard to keep from drifting back to their memory. This is really kind of sick.  And so absurdly difficult.  It’s hard to believe i’m a normal person.

Note: An interesting observation – after listening to more than 65 hours of the same author, i note that the style that appears in this entry mimics the voice of the novels. So don’t blame me. It would seem that i am a style mimic. Does that count as a superpower? Wait. Don’t answer that. Damn.

20 December 2008

What is pretty for?

In the context of the material world being a facsimile of the spiritual world

The worlds of God are in perfect harmony and correspondence one with another. Each world in this limitless universe is, as it were, a mirror reflecting the history and nature of all the rest. The physical universe is, likewise, in perfect correspondence with the spiritual or divine realm. The world of matter is an outer expression or facsimile of the inner kingdom of spirit. The world of minds corresponds with the world of hearts.

(Abdu’l-Baha, The Promulgation of Universal Peace, p. 270)

i find myself wondering – what is the function of beauty?  Especially, to what degree and in what way does what we as a humanity find beautiful reflect the progress of our development? What does it tell us about our spiritual senses?  How precise is this correspondence?  Does the reflection of beauty in the physical world correlate to some specific or non-specific quality in the spiritual world?  Or is this correlation only there to let us understand the virtue of attraction to beauty, to give us a metaphor for the natural attraction our souls have to the Ancient Beauty?  Does the manifestation of that virtue apply only to spiritual beauty, or is it also somehow a sign of spiritual advancement to be attracted to the flower or the fine art or the genetic masterpiece?  As the increased mixing of races leads to more and more beautiful human beings, is there something to be understood from that about the unity of mankind?  It certainly says something that beauty plays such an important role in the evaluation of things created by artists and that that creation seems to be one of the closest things to revelation a mere mortal might experience.  Can evaluating what we are attracted to and where we see beauty give us clues as to how our own spiritual development is coming along?  Would an effort to consciously reshape one’s conception of beauty have a correlative effect on one’s soul?  As an aspect of material existence that causes so much consternation and confusion, i’d sure be interestedto know- what is it for?

8 November 2008

Oh! You came back!

That was very generous of you.  i would’ve assumed i was dead.  Or had developed some sort of adversarial relationship with the technologies.  Not so! Since you’re here after all this time, i’ll have to assume you’re one of those people that loves me and so i will tell you some things that might interest you (read: things about me).

i love everything these days.  Except the things i will never love because they are evil – like cockroaches and morning.  i won’t list the things that i love because i already told you it’s everything.  But there are a few things that are standing out as bringing extra joy into my anyways stellar life.  These include God, loved ones, and Japan.  The first two i think are self-explanatory.  That’s right.  That means i’m not going to explain why they are bringing extra joy.  Though i may later explain how they are doing so.  But probably not.  However, i do recognize that the mention of Japan out of all the countries and other things in the world, many of which i have a much closer relationship with, may merit some elucidation.

It’s not true that i love Japan more than other places.  [editor's note: this initially read "i can't say that...". It seems worth noting that 'i can't say' and 'it's not true' are apparently synonymous in my mind] i’ve never been there and don’t know much about it.  However, it is without doubt the entity (aside from God and friends – did i mention that both of these are the same thing as love, which is the very best thing in the worlds?) lately bringing me the most joy.  This joy first came in the form of a teenager drama called Hana Yori Dango, with which many of you have since, in some cases forcibly, become familiar.  i could go on a bit about how this silly little show opened the dusty windows of my heart and let the air in so my friends and God could breathe there again.  But instead i’m just going to skip ahead to jpop, which adorns the halls of jdorama (both of which terms can be found in the most recent edition of the Oxford English Dictionary) with catchy happy and earnest emotional tunes.  You may listen to a sampling of these here.   You may also partake in a variety of jdorama here, but a note of caution:  a certain mindset must be present in a viewer for such things to be healthy and uplifting instead of murdering your soul.  i suspect these are the only two possible outcomes of this activity, so proceed, if you will, with care.  Through these media, i have discovered that i love Japanese language and am now learning it like someone else might learn an instrument.  All i want to do (besides my work and loving God and my friends) is practice Japanese.  And eat cabbage.  But that’s maybe something for another post.  So you see?  Japan has provided THREE things that bring great joy to my life.  Plus a fourth that i should really be more ashamed of.

i think that’s enough for now.  However, if i get my act together about it, posts and comments from yours truly will also be appearing at the Changing Times blog at semi-regular intervals.

12 September 2008

i wrote a bit of prose before

It’s almost poetry, which makes me uncomfortable because, in my experience, poetry has to be very well crafted to be respectable and i’m not at all confident that mine is, but i likes the words and so i’m putting them down. Here.

i wonder sometimes if my prayers are getting through while my doubt is the wall they bounce back from. Maybe it’s the delivery…or maybe i’m just checking the wrong mailbox for reply. Are they missing an address or in the wrong shaped envelope? i know the words are right because He chose them. i think they’re flying off to nowhere and landing on my back. Or God’s writing on them “return to sender.” But that’s not it, is it? I mean, my prayers are surely being answered. i just don’t understand how i’m meant to address them or how much postage i need so they’re going out in carefully decorated envelopes with no means of delivery…And i wish i could just use the phone.

This conundrum is one that pops up for me periodically. Usually when i am left to myself and begin to ponder too deeply the nature of things i cannot possibly comprehend. At the moment, it is not in the least a concern, but i am sure that again in the future it will haunt my senses and i shall despair until i again surrender to my ignorance.

5 September 2008

Buffy redeemed

i’m not really in the mood to write just now, but i have been thinking about some ideas and have so few oportunities to post i thought i ought to take advantage. This post is coming to you courtesy of one Roxanne Hai whose has generously contributed her old IBMThinkpad to the iBook Survivors Support Network. i’m none too comfortable working on a PC, but i’m grateful not to be using a pen to scribble random thoughts on napkins. Needless to say, the Russian was ineffective. i still have some hope for hack fixes, but in the meantime it’s me and the Monster and the cafe (the Monster just beeped at me – do you think it wants something?). Unfortunately it won’t speak with our wireless at home, but i’m hoping to get it an implant that might enhance it’s capacity for love.

So, in the absence of electronic diversion, i retured to my old habit of sitting around and reading a lot. i had forgotten how satisfying such occupation is. Not only do you feel like you’re doing something productive, even if you’re reading the most meanigless fluff, but the stories last like 20 times as long as any movie! This means that, not only is the yearning for more put off for days instead of a mere 2 hours, but the extra time it takes to read each book means that the availability of books you haven’t read is bound to exceed the availability of movies you haven’t seen by, well, a heck of a lot. Even here in Israel where English-language books are only sold in exchange for your first-born child, i’ve managed to come accross enough to keep me entertained for months. But of course, spending all this time reading brings me back to the old question – will Harry Potter lead me to hell just as easily as Buffy? [see "Buffy the Vampire Slayer will lead me to hell" and "The Trappings of Fiction"] i believe the answer, my friends, lies at the intersection of an understanding i came to several months ago and the natural human ability to engage with things like literature, film, and even people with intention and scope broader than that of the immediate object of our attention.

[note: i like the way the Monster has separate buttons for deleting things in front of and behind the cursor]

So. The understanding, first, i think. i’d like to mention here that this understanding is somewhat metaphorical – as, i have found, are many of my understandings these days – and should not be expanded beyond the scope of its applicability. It began with something i heard in a talk about the material world being a facsimile of the spiritual world. Oh! The Monster can run Ocean! “The world of matter is an outer expression or facsimile of the inner kingdom of spirit.” (Abdu’l-Baha, The Promulgation of Universal Peace, p. 270) Upon learning this, i considered and internalized it literally, as has become my habit with the Writings. Unlike those of previous Dispensations, i think, for the large part, we can do that with the Baha’i Scriptures, though it is important not to limit the term “literal” to material manifestation. So if we think of this literally, or at least if i do, what we get is that the spiritual world is reality – something we all know – and this world is a sort of copy of that world – a reissuing of the original, but without many of the qualities that distinguish the actual thing (think color, dimension, etc.). Simplified for the purpose of conveying essential information.

i thought about this in the context of God’s having created us – us, the Universe, and all of material existence – so that we could know Him. God loved us, wanted us to know Him, knew we couldn’t do that directly, so he made the Universe, in this understanding, as a sort of metaphor for the spiritual world and everything in it – souls, God, the Holy Spirit, love, etc. – which we see all over the Holy Scriptures of every age. It is not by coincidence that we can make the Sun represent God, the warmth and light the Holy Spirit, the rays the Manifestations, and the earth the body. God made all of those things to represent the spiritual world so that we could understand Him and it to some degree. By that token, i think it stands to reason that a great many of the things we have created within that creation would serve the same purpose. Particularly those things that are created from a space of healthy spirit, which i think many would agree seem to be inspired by some permutation of divinity.

This is getting long. So my point is that, approached from the appropriate space of learning about God, the universe, and everything, anything that exists in this world should carry with it some avenue to knowing God better. The particular example that spawned this monologue was Harry Potter. i was thinking about how much time i have spent reading those books i don’t know how many times and trying to assess whether all that time should be put in the ‘wasted’ category or whether i might have gleaned something useful from those hours. Okay, days. It was then that i realized (much to my relief) that indeed, there were some basic concepts that people like me are only able to glean from fiction.

A good example would be the idea of a king or lord. Having grown up in a ‘democratic’ society where one is much more likely to belittle than revere the head of state, the idea of a powerful, respected ruler, more capable of holding such a position than those under him, has always been a bit out of my reach. Consequently, when i have prayed, to say “my King” has never really meant anything clear to me. Reading fiction where such kings exist helps me conceptualize that particular attribute of God. Consider the following quote from a prayer of Baha’u'llah (do you like my Ruhi sentence structure?):

“Thou before Whose wisdom the wise falleth short and faileth, before Whose knowledge the learned confesseth his ignorance, before Whose might the strong waxeth weak, before Whose wealth the rich testifieth to his poverty, before Whose light the enlightened is lost in darkness, toward the shrine of Whose knowledge turneth the essence of all understanding and around the sanctuary of Whose presence circle the souls of all mankind.” (Baha’i Prayers, p. 120)

In a society where all men are created equal and in which we spend a great deal of our time and energy affirming to ourselves and asserting to others that we are, in fact, equal if not superior to every other human being on the planet, i’ve never really had the expereince of relating to someone as ‘one of the wise’ or ‘the strong’ or ‘the enlightened’. Western society has pretty much eliminated such societal positions as elders, shamans, wise men, etc. Even those who are considered well-informed can, for the most part, only be said to be so within a limited discipline. But – and bear with me here – when i think of, for example, Dumbledore, who is written exactly for the purpose of filling that role, i have someone to imagine waxing weak, confessing ignorance, and being lost in darkness. In literature, the archetypes whose essential qualities pale so sharply when placed in the light of God’s omnipotence are given form and tangibility that my limited ‘real world’ experience has no space for.

It is for this reason that i would argue that, far from taking us away from reality, fiction – i think probably movies included – can, just like everything else in the universe, help us to know and worship God, if that’s what we’re up to, which is, after all, the point. i get the feeling that, if the material world is a facsimile of the spiritual, fiction is just as much a part of that facsimile as anything else and we can, if we are seeing as we are meant to, see in these things the attributes of God as clearly as in any other part of creation. This is not to say that my tendency to watch Buffy or read Harry Potter instead of saying my obligatory prayers is therefore justifiable. Only that, where before it might have seemed that i was sacrificing moving forward for moving backward, i think now that, in fact, i’m sacrificing moving forward in an preferable and dignified manner for moving forward a bit more clumsily, with less direction, and possibly at great peril. But moving forward nevertheless. Such is the generosity of God.

19 August 2008

something to listen to

i tried to embed this video, but it didn’t work, so…you should jsut go to the site. Look around while you’re there *smile*.

5 August 2008

Soon, friends, soon

She says hoping not to be made a tease.  i retrieved the data from my computer thanks to the generosity of my friend and colleague, Ms. Nasim Mahboubi.  Everything i have collected from the past 5 years is now on 3 DVDs.  To be fair, the collection has been built from scratch more than once.  In any case, the ibook went to the backalley clinic on Friday.  We’ll see what we learn.  Hopefully we will learn that for 50 shekels, the Russain hacker will reflow the solder on the logic board and Liza will be as good as new.  Or good as 7 years old, anyway.  At least for a little while, which is all i ask for, really.   i’ll keep you posted.  Or not, depending on the outcome.

17 July 2008

What do you think?

I’m thinking of reinserting the “B” and the “E” in my name.  On all my formal documents, my name is spelled a-b-b-i-e.  Except my diplomas, i think.  Did you know that?  In 6th grade, i thought my name was too round, so i took the extra letters out.  It worked.  i felt better.  But now, i think it might be good to have a nice round full name, to better match my self.  Especially in consideration of the particular letters B and E (Be) – seem familiar? – that went missing.  So i’d like to know – what do you think?